I never enjoy making new year’s resolutions. I’ve struggled with the fear of not having achieved that “thing” that I put on my bucket list or my resolutions for the year. Even though this fear is completely arbitrary, that perfectionist in me is reluctant to place on paper something for which I’m not sure will be achieved; even worse, I fear not being good at something.
Looking back on 2016, I’m glad I challenged that fear in new areas of life. This past summer I signed up for my first half marathon with a group of friends. I ran cross country in high school and had mildly kept in shape here and there, but nothing consistent. Training for a 13.1 mile race forced me to hold myself accountable to train on days even when I wasn’t feeling up for it, push through when fatigue was setting in or when I began to question my decision to run 13 miles straight. Like much in life, I believe that those who succeed are individuals that become really good at mastering their time and habits. In other words, they don’t let the day control them (the inevitable meetings and distractions that pop up throughout the day). They incrementally improve on repeatable day-to-day habits with focus on the long term goal.
One of my favorite quotes I heard recently was from Arianna Huffington, “Fear is like a muscle, the more you work at it, the better you are at facing new challenges.”
I’ve been told that it takes approximately 3-4 weeks to make a habit “stick.” So, for example, if I keep waking up at 6am for a few weeks, my body will eventually think of it as second nature. Instead of asking myself why I’m up so early, my mind will be trained to think of that time as just part of my daily schedule (in other words ingrained into what I do).
2016 in Review
In 2016, I invested time in new friendships (we joined a young married small group), family (my brother got married!), travel, moving (we live on a lake! woo hoo!) and development of a new business. Our relationships became richer, our experiences traveling, deeper and our lessons learned in business development/career path, more defined.
I created a list of goals I’d like to achieve for 2017; some of which are habits, some personal enjoyment, some skills and others just for cultivation of knowledge/general health.
|Goal||How am I going to achieve it and when will I start?|
|Workout 4x a week||45 minute workouts during lunch hour – Spinning, BodyPump and HIIT Mon. – Thurs., occasional Fri.|
|Read and or yoga/pilates in the morning; eat breakfast||Set alarm for 6am and wakeup – make a reading plan of books I’d like to complete per month/a countdown of days I have left to complete each book.|
|Business Development||Set 1 goal per week or day that answers this question: What is the single most important thing I can do to move the needle? Focus on 1 high-value thing per week.|
|Dedicate 1 night per week toward the development of a skill or hobby||Sunday nights. A new hobby each quarter. I’m currently learning to play the piano!|
|Go to bed at 11pm (currently, sometimes I fall asleep around 10pm and other days I fall asleep after 12am)||Drink a cup of coffee in the evening?|
|Go on 5 vacations (atleast 1 international)||Booking vacations further in advance around major holidays. I made a list of all the places I’d like to go at the beginning of the year in order to strategize the timing of the bookings, how much they cost, if I am going to use points to pay for the trips|
|Learn financial modeling, UX Design and other digital marketing techniques||Weekday evenings. Signed up for a few short term classes.|
|Create a personal website and blog about career development, personal finance and travel hacks. Deepen my writing skills and demonstrate my general knowledge to a captive audience||Here we go!|
Struggling with setting your own goals? Think of them like little everyday habits. If you’re able to breakdown long term goals into everyday habits, you’ll be more likely to sustain the pace.
Here’s three resources for creating habits that stick:
- Why you should be tracking your habits and how I do
- How the best CEOs get the most out of their days
- Ramit Sethi’s take on why habits require preparation